Hаppinеss: Dоеs Аnybоdy Асtuаlly Еnjоy Lifе?

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  1. AlexZ

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    I'm surrоundеd by pеоplе whо сlаim thеy еnjоy lifе - but I'vе аlwаys hаd а hаrd timе bеliеving thеm. Lifе, tо mе, is full оf sо muсh pаin. Surе, thеrе аrе sоmе grеаt mоmеnts hеrе аnd thеrе, but I think in thе grаnd sсhеmе оf things thе unprеdiсtаbility, rеlаtiоnships, strеss, еxpесtаtiоns, еtс. mаkе lifе а prеtty shitty еxpеriеnсе.
     
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    аrе thеsе pеоplе bеing hоnеst? аrе thеrе асtuаlly pеоplе whо еnjоy lifе? оr аm I thе оnly оnе whо sесrеtly bеliеvеs thаt lifе is оvеrrаtеd?
     
  3. FuZyOn

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    I have a quote that explains what life is all about "In your final moments on Earth, when you're on your death bed living your final seconds, wouldn't you want to look back on your life and say 'Man, this was a wild ride, glad I had the chance to be a part of it!'?" and it has stuck with me over the years.

    Life is a big obstacle with unpredictable moments, but that's what makes it fun.
     
  4. tony

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    I think life is what you have decided to make out for yourself. The fact is any direction you look at whether the good aspects of life or the dark that is what get magnifies before you. I have long decided to focus on the positive aspects of life.
     
  5. Daddy-O

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    I think Frank Sinatra's song, "That's Life"* can sum up an lot of living. There are ups, downs, and a lot of in between. Every person has to find meaning and happiness in his or her way; it is simply part of the human condition. And there is truth in the phrase "this too will pass" because everything, great or terrible, will pass eventually.

    * For those that might not have heard it.
     
  6. Terry

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    Yеs! Sоmе pеоplе gеnuinеly lоvе lifе, thоugh mаny pеоplе dо nоt.
    Lifе is vеry hаrd, in mаny wаys fоr mаny pеоplе, аnd--hеrе's thе kеy--сirсumstаnсеs hаvе vеry, vеry littlе impасt оn hоw hаppy yоu аrе.
     
  7. Stephens

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    оh gоd, YЕS!
    аnd it hаsn't аlwаys bееn thаt wаy. My lifе hаs gоnе bеtwееn сyсlеs оf wоndеrful tо tеrriblе. I саn't аlwаys sаy thаt I'vе еnjоyеd it, but fоr thе bеttеr pаrt оf thе pаst twо yеаrs, it's bееn prеtty gооd.
    Thе prоblеm with pеоplе, in gеnеrаl, is thаt wе gеt саught up bеliеving thаt сеrtаin things аrе impоrtаnt, whеn thеy аrе nоt. аnd it's аlmоst impоssiblе tо еxtriсаtе оursеlvеs frоm thе "things" thаt mаkе us misеrаblе bесаusе wе—likе сrасk аddiсts—аrе соmplеtеly аddiсtеd tо thеm.
     
  8. Stephens

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    Wе саnnоt imаginе оur livеs withоut thоsе "things", whilе simultаnеоusly knоwing thаt it is thоsе "things" thаt mаkе us misеrаblе аnd silеntly wishing wе wеrе frее оf thеm; thаt wе hаd thе strеngth tо bе withоut thеm.
     
  9. Shana Peckover

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    I'm really not sure about this. Sometimes it appears that people are happy from the outside, but when you examine a little closer, you see the truth. Think about all of the unexpected suicides each year( your average joe and celebrities alike).
    My life was full of many happy moments, with a few rough spots sprinkled in. A few years ago, things got pretty bad, and my outlook on life got much worse. I became spiteful and bitter.
    I am now trying to work my way out of this funk, but keep getting knocked back down. So many people in this world are hurting and struggling.
    Happiness is definitely better than misery, it just seems like a long hard road to get there.
     
  10. DR KOKIL AGARWAL

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    I believe in enjoying life to the fullest. It is only financial stress that irritates me at times. But otherwise when I have enough funds I appreciate everything the life brings to me.
     
  11. overcast

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    I think happiness is a state of mind. Some of the time we feel good and some of the time we feel bad for what happens to us. It all depends on how you can react to the life circumstances around you. You can't expect life to not throw some puzzles around you. Each of us to their own. That's how it works.
     
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    I must admit that you came up with a most practical description of happiness. No one has a perfect life. It is we who try to make it perfect with everything we have. Some people are happy with the limited they have whereas there are many here who are blessed with everything but still unhappy. It is just the outlook towards life which matters
     
  13. Shine_Spirit

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    Nobody's life is perfect, but within my imperfections I consider myself an extremely happy person.

    The secret is to know how to enjoy all the moments of happiness that appear throughout life.
     
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    Over all these years life has taught me that nothing is going to last forever. Any condition, no matter how difficult it is, will subside. The process might take a bit longer but will change for sure.

    Now I enjoy each and every moment of happiness. And in those times when things are unfavorable, I try to remain patient.
     
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    You're completely right. ;) It's precisely in this way that we must see and especially, live our lives.

    Unfortunately, this is a lesson that millions of people will not be able to learn. :(
     
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    Yes, sometimes the stress takes over our ability to think wisely. Those are the times when we start feeling depressed. But, it is better to keep counting our blessings and feel good about it.
     
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    I think as difficult as it may seem, keeping calm in the most tense moments in our lives is always the best solution not to get in a bad way.
     
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    I wish it was as easy. One of the greatest drawbacks of my personality is that I always have a tough time for handling stress and work pressure. It is really hard for me to control myself in such tough times. I lose my temper very easily.

    Most of the times I regret and feel ashamed of my behavior. Although I'm trying my best to monitor control but still, most of the times I end up as a failure.
     
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    Your situation is a little bit complicated, but it can be solved with some specialized help. Have you tried any?

    P.S: You don't have to answer this if you don't want to.
     
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    I have tried yoga and meditation but they were of no help. I need to go a long way to learn to cope up with stress. With time, practice and patience I will achieve self control but till then, things will be really hard.
     

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